ANAL SEX MONTH or FOREVER

ANAL SEX MONTH or FOREVER
ANAL SEX MONTH or FOREVER Though August is celebrated by many as Anal Sex Month in an attempt to get the topic out of the closet and into people’s sexual repertoire, according to Wikipedia, should you participate in what may consider a normal act of intimacy or at least a measure of experimental fun, those involved may well be performing questionable legal acts within the privacy of their own home. According to Wikipedia: “As of April 2014, 17 states have not yet either formally repealed ... Read More

SCREAMING HEADLINES

SCREAMING HEADLINES
These are some of the screaming headlines that cut across our news on a daily basis. The battle for women’s rights rages ruthlessly across our land. How can this have happened? Though the US has made strides in just about all areas of human rights and gender equality, the segment that has been left behind is a women’s control over her own body. As a woman who grew up in the fifties and had friend’s die on back room abortionist’s tables in the sixties, no matter what I think about fetal ... Read More

THE FEMALE ELDER

THE FEMALE ELDER
THE FEMALE ELDER I AWOKE THIS MORNING REMEMBERING AN ANCIENT MYTH WORTH SHARING. There are many versions of this myth. Below is one I offer for you to think about. It was part of my dream. Recently my dreams have been related to coming to terms with my past as well as with the wonders and gifts that the totality of inner and outer beauty offered by Aging and the wisdom that comes with it. I like calling it (S)aging The word "cailleach" in the Scottish-Gaelic means old woman! "coileach-oidhche" ... Read More

INTERNATIONAL AIDS CONFERENCE 2014: WHY I WILL ATTEND IN 2015.

INTERNATIONAL AIDS CONFERENCE 2014: WHY I WILL ATTEND IN 2015.
INTERNATIONAL AIDS CONFERENCE 2014: WHY I WILL ATTEND IN 2015. THE INTERNATIONAL AIDS CONFENERENCE 2014 was held last week in Melbourne Australia. Presenters included, President Bill Clinton, UNAIDS Executive Director Michel Sidibé, activist Sir Bob Geldof plus a host of other luminaries and in the field dedicated researchers and direct contact workers. This particular conference is one of those experiences that belong in the “How did I miss that category?” As a long term Aids activist and ... Read More

A Sexy Great-Grandma

A Sexy Great-Grandma
A Sexy Great-Grandma At 87, Leanne still works a few hours every day in her family’s business, still drives her own car, still buys her own groceries, and yes, she still has sex. The mother of two and former nurse still can’t quite bring herself to say the word “vagina,” and she’s never looked at her own genitals with a mirror, but she did discover a vibrator about ten years ago, which she uses only under the covers with the lights off, and she still enjoys having an orgasm “every ... Read More

LOOKING FOR LOVE IN ALL THE RIGHT PLACES

LOOKING FOR LOVE IN ALL THE RIGHT PLACES
LOOKING FOR LOVE IN ALL THE RIGHT PLACES Dating at any age is often a numbers game. The more you date wisely, the better your chances of finding love. Many people stop themselves from trying, as the idea of dating seems worse than going to the dentist. True, it is a little like job-hunting with the added vulnerability of wearing your heart on your sleeve. But there is another way to look at it. What an exciting adventure. You can learn so much about yourself as you kick start your experience ... Read More

Sex at the World Cup: Yea or Nay?

Sex at the World Cup: Yea or Nay?
Sex at the World Cup: Yea or Nay? An ongoing debate in sexuality is whether or not athletes should abstain from sex until after the big game or tournament. Some in favor of waiting have argued that sex will distract and deplete athletes, and that unsatiated desires can fuel aggression and competitive spirit. Others, however, think sex is a nice way to rest and calm one’s nerves before a performance. Leading up to the World Cup, a number of coaches said sex was off-limits when their teams ... Read More

Do Men Have A G-Spot?

Do Men Have A G-Spot?
Personally, I’ve never been a fan of the term G-Spot. I dislike it for two reasons. One is that it tends to turn sex into target practice. The second is that I’m in the camp that prefers the concept that the so-called G-Spot for both women and men is really a confluence of bundles of heavily concentrated nerve endings that for many people tend to more or less join together in a particular physical location. While there does seem to be a single spot for many of both sexes, for others, the vessels ... Read More

AIDS Will BE ERADICATED: A MESSAGE OF HOPE

AIDS Will BE ERADICATED: A MESSAGE OF HOPE
AIDS Will BE ERADICATED: A MESSAGE OF HOPE Recently, mostly by happenstance, I’ve seen several drama revivals and old movies of Tony Kushner’s works. For those of you who may be too young to know of nor recall Mr. Kushner’s writing, he has always been a prolific gay activist whose weapon is his pen. His work has garnered many awards as has he; among them: 1993 Pulitzer Prize for Drama – Angels in America: Millennium Approaches 1993 Tony Award for Best Play – Angels in America: ... Read More

PERSISTENT SEXUAL AROUSAL

PERSISTENT SEXUAL AROUSAL
PERSISTENT SEXUAL AROUSAL: (Want more orgasms? Think again). For some women it’s a fantasy they wish would come true. The idea of having a woman, who’s always ready to come, if she hasn’t already, can seem pretty scintillating. I assume it might be for some men as well. Having an orgasm every hour, or even better, every minute or two, sounds great doesn’t it? But, what if it’s unwanted and comes when you are doing the wash, trying to conduct a business meeting or figure out a highly ... Read More

Unasked for Experience To a Community

Unasked for Experience To a Community
From A Voice of Unasked for Experience To a Community Who Wants to Help a Cherished Member Whose Home Has Burned, Salvaging Nothing of Material Value. (Of course, everyone lovingly wants to help NOW! I’ve changed names, places and the organization for purposes of privacy). As someone who unfortunately has had my home burn to the ground losing everything except the clothes on my back and what I considered unimportant as they were items stowed in a separate garage, I can only tell you what ... Read More

THE GREAT SEX AND TECHNOLOGY MERGER

THE GREAT SEX AND TECHNOLOGY MERGER
VIBRATORS, LELO AND COMPUTERS As a healthy sex and intimacy educator, I’m frequently sent products to evaluate. Because of my belief that the components that go in your car, do not belong in or on your body, (a common example is silicone) these items don’t even get to my evaluation finish line. Because of my reputation as a cutting edge pro safe sex and healthy environment educator, mostly the products are organic lubes and other safe sexual aids. Even vibrators, dildos, and other body touching ... Read More

MY HEART SANK: CONDOM INSANITY IN NY

MY HEART SANK: CONDOM INSANITY IN NY
I’m a New Yorker through and through. One of those people others tend to say about: “We’ll you can take the girl/woman out of NY, but you can’t take NY out of her.” A few weeks ago I spent 5 days in my beloved birth city and loved it as I do every visit. I’ve come to think of the chaos, morass and speed as part of my DNA. I’ve also always known it was a city that made it’s mistakes, but when it came to sex, I always thought of it as being more on the liberal side. Since I’ve been ... Read More

TECHNOLOGY: THE NEW MISS MANNERS

TECHNOLOGY: THE NEW MISS MANNERS
TECHNOLOGY: THE NEW MISS MANNERS There’s a fragment of a poem from CS Lewis that I once knew well that keeps going round and round in my head " When I was a child I did childish things, when I became ... was a child, I spake as a child, understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when ... * etc. I always thought that one of the ideas about “growing-up” was that one changed and took more responsibility for their actions. I was raised to believe so and raised my own children in ... Read More

When Sex Hurts: Is Vulvar Vestibulitis to Blame? – James A. Simon

When Sex Hurts: Is Vulvar Vestibulitis to Blame? – James A. Simon
When Sex Hurts: Is Vulvar Vestibulitis to Blame? Women who experience significant pain during sex may be suffering from vulvar vestibulitis, a type of vulvodynia. Vulvar vestibulitis is an inflammation of the vaginal vestibule, or the entrance to the vagina. Any type of pressure, whether it’s from penetration, inserting a tampon or even crossing your legs, could cause severe pain. Burning, stinging or irritation of the vestibule area can also accompany this condition. According to the International ... Read More

SEXUALITY AND SOCIAL NORMS

SEXUALITY AND SOCIAL NORMS
Sexuality and Social Norms. Recently, I read a survey whose accuracy I can’t attest to, stating that according to number of condoms purchased and other surveys given, Denver was the most sexual city in the US; While Jacksonville, Florida was the least. http://seriousfacts.com/denver-colorado-sexually-active-city-america-least-jacksonville-florida/. This got me to thinking about what is happening in America. The strides forward and the discrimination of all kinds that still exists, especially ... Read More

DUPLICITY IN ACTION

DUPLICITY IN ACTION
DUPLICITY IN ACTION: Virus Scan Dilemma IN HONER OF THE WEB’S 25TH ANNIVERSARY. Re: A great computer virus program that shall remain unnamed caused my reaction below. I rarely get angry, but this experience resulted in a temper tantrum time. So, I am ranting. I still have the "free" version o f my Virus Scan. Yesterday, I tried to reup registration as requested as it was ending on an "almost there" specific date. I tried for 8 days. First tech over a week ago, though he couldn't speak ... Read More

CREATIVE AGING

CREATIVE AGING
CREATIVE AGING According to Erikson, Jung and other seminal thinkers on aging, when being old was still considered someone in their sixties, not possibly a centurion, if we have lived our lives well, we often make a U turn to creative aspects of ourselves that we left behind as children. Most of us became so enmeshed with daily routines or building lives consisting of work, marriage, frequently divorce, children and becoming whatever the word, or we, expected of ourselves. Frequently, complications ... Read More

THE BRIGHT SIDE OF A BUMMER ECONOMY: LONGEVITY

THE BRIGHT SIDE OF A BUMMER ECONOMY: LONGEVITY
THE BRIGHT SIDE OF A BUMMER ECONOMY: LONGEVITY “Far and away the best prize that life has to offer is the chance to work hard at work worth doing.” Said Theodore Roosevelt . It seems Teddy was on to something. Study after study show that for those used to being active, suddenly stopping work and living out the fantasy of those Golden Years, may well leave you living with merely a bronze, or silver prize or even no medal nor life at all. In a 2003 study of thousands of employees who worked ... Read More

MARRIAGE MANUAL

MARRIAGE MANUAL
Part 1 Valentine’s Newsletter had a different type of Blog, one that touched on the dark side of this most complex Hallmark Holiday. THIS BLOG IS DEDICATED TO OWNERS OF MARRIAGES WHO KNOW HOW TO MAKE THEM WORK: All marriages go through rough times. In fact some come so close to splitting the couple wonders if they can ever make it work again. Some stressful time periods are predictable. They might be thought of as developmental. They happen after routines set in and what was once totally ... Read More

VALENTINE’S DAY 2014

VALENTINE’S DAY 2014
We all want to be loved and to love. Just listen to Country and Western music, which to my way of thinking, always gets right to the heart of the matter. Country and Western is so popular, in part, because all the vagaries and themes of love are simply and directly arrowed into your heart. C&W consistently wails and shoots the message directly to the deepest parts of where you live. I can imagine there's a C&W songwriter watching a screen and when the perfect sentence is written to hit your ... Read More

LOVING LONG, LOVING LIGHT: TANTRIC SEX FOR ALL

LOVING LONG, LOVING LIGHT: TANTRIC SEX FOR ALL
This week I’ve been thinking about Tantric Sex. No, that’s not true, I’ve been obsessed by the practice of it. Interviewing Margot Landry On the Couch Feb-2-14 and reading her book Loving You Enlightens Me, reminded me of so much of my own past explorations, experiences and education during my time at Esalen, India, other Asian countries and the countless energy workshops I’ve taken over my lifetime. ... Read More